Getting the best out of people and thereby get the best out of oneself.
We are imprisoned by the stories we construct ourselves. 'The story of our life is a story not our life' John Bart.
'One has to overcome the story and become the author of one's life'.
How do you know what you will excel at - have patience with yourself and open yourself up to many possibilities.
'Generous company' is the epitaph he would like.
A crucible is a test or event which has a verdict.